Amandar Tue Sep 13, 2011 9:08 pm
Hello...everyone. I'm not sure how to start this, as I've never participated in any internet forums before. But I thought with the subject of Turkish men, it would be beneficial and comforting to connect with others who have Turkish men in their lives. That's what I'm here for.
I'm in my mid twenties and met my Turkish men almost one year ago. We met through fb (I know, I know) but we connected straight away; that's the only way I can describe it. I eventually flew over to Turkey to visit him for the first time in May. This was a nerve wracking step that took months to prepare for :-/ I felt a little...deflated that I was so scared of the first meeting that most people who meet on the internet look forward to so much.
I was so relieved when we met face to face and all my initial fears vanished. We got on like a house on fire and ever since that day we have been inseparable. I did have some personal problems which I'd rather not go into detail on here just yet, but when I discussed them with him one night he was so understanding and caring. He has been a major source of support and strength in that respect. But while I feel understood and supported by him, and I feel he really does understand my personal problems, he cannot relate to them. While he himself has his own troubled background which resulted in him self harming, he doesn't get the debilitating fear I get when remembering my past, and though he tries he can't understand it. He says we should move forward now and he wants us to get married next year and to forget about the past. I love him but I'm not sure if I'm ready for that.
I have one close friend who has taken the time to listen to my concerns about marrying a Turkish man, where as I don't believe my other friends fully grasp the problems than can occur, if reading some of the stories around are anything to go by :-/
I'm a writer and feel more comfortable behind words than I do face to face, which makes it difficult to meet new people, so this here should be ideal for me. I'm hoping this'll be a useful transition into getting to understand Turkish men better and what sort of problems I should truly expect long term. More than anything, I want to connect with others who have been in long term relationships with a Turkish man and to hear all the pros and cons.
Thanks for having me on here :-)