Oh this comment has made me laugh during my awful illness, just take a look at this from TC which is taken from the Baby Name Thread where Ladybird questions preggers 'is this not your child too?'
Part of the response was this:-
'Ladybird- I can see where you are coming from, but we as a couple are honest and speak our mind to each other. That was his standpoint and I honor it. I also told him mine and he understood. Utlimately, we compromised. We are both very happy with the end result. He's made a great deal of sacrifices to be with me (Despite what some people -- and I use that term very loosely -- may think!) and I try to keep that in mind. He had professional career in Istanbul and only came here to improve his English to get a promotion, but he wound up staying. I can't imagine what deciding to leave your country and family must feel like. Especially when his relatives are so wonderful.
Part of the reason why he and I are so strong as a couple is that we don't turn different points of view into standoffs and win/loose situtaions. It takes maturity to see the other person's point of view, but learning to put your ego aside for the benefit of the family goes a long way to ensure mutual peace and harmony.
Some lesser enlightened people may consider that 'subservient,' but anyone in a successful long term realtionship will tell you that to give a little takes a lot more strength.'
So OK, lets have a bit of a poll here on what constitutes a Long Term Relationship shall we? I think I should win the award personally, buts lets see, first of all I was in a 34 year marriage, hey ho, can anyone beat that? My ex husband was my money tree, I took him to the cleaners thats why I stayed with him so long Then one day I had a good look at this balding, ugly freak I had been with for 34 years and thought he's well past his sell by date, his earning potential was coming to an end and I thought, Rubes get rid of 15 stone overnight without even having to diet So I did
Now 34 years is a very long time to be with one person, so why do people spout out when they have been with their so called partner for a couple of years that they have a successful relationship Any relationship can end even after many many years together. Whether that be with a professional or an illegal worker, sacrifices or not.
Can anyone beat my crown?
Rubes
Part of the response was this:-
'Ladybird- I can see where you are coming from, but we as a couple are honest and speak our mind to each other. That was his standpoint and I honor it. I also told him mine and he understood. Utlimately, we compromised. We are both very happy with the end result. He's made a great deal of sacrifices to be with me (Despite what some people -- and I use that term very loosely -- may think!) and I try to keep that in mind. He had professional career in Istanbul and only came here to improve his English to get a promotion, but he wound up staying. I can't imagine what deciding to leave your country and family must feel like. Especially when his relatives are so wonderful.
Part of the reason why he and I are so strong as a couple is that we don't turn different points of view into standoffs and win/loose situtaions. It takes maturity to see the other person's point of view, but learning to put your ego aside for the benefit of the family goes a long way to ensure mutual peace and harmony.
Some lesser enlightened people may consider that 'subservient,' but anyone in a successful long term realtionship will tell you that to give a little takes a lot more strength.'
So OK, lets have a bit of a poll here on what constitutes a Long Term Relationship shall we? I think I should win the award personally, buts lets see, first of all I was in a 34 year marriage, hey ho, can anyone beat that? My ex husband was my money tree, I took him to the cleaners thats why I stayed with him so long Then one day I had a good look at this balding, ugly freak I had been with for 34 years and thought he's well past his sell by date, his earning potential was coming to an end and I thought, Rubes get rid of 15 stone overnight without even having to diet So I did
Now 34 years is a very long time to be with one person, so why do people spout out when they have been with their so called partner for a couple of years that they have a successful relationship Any relationship can end even after many many years together. Whether that be with a professional or an illegal worker, sacrifices or not.
Can anyone beat my crown?
Rubes