How long was it before you had sex with your turkish man?

I hope people dont think this is rude but I just wonder how long it took before you went the whole way?

Pipxoxo

Hey Phillipa, don't be shy in coming forward. That's what these sites are for, to ask questions! Being a hot blooded male myself I've never had to deal with this situation from a female angle, but I can tell you that many of us guys are just as nervous as some of you girls!

I would never think badly of a woman who was in touch with her sexual needs, that's nature for you. The urge to mate is inbred in all of us and sex is a natural and amazing experience. I'm a very sensual person and when I find a woman attractive I want to take her to my bed straigh then and there! I never would do of course, only in my dreams!

I respect and admire women far too much to come on to them too quickly, and I hope I won't get shot down in flames for saying this, but I would say in general that us guys do like the chase and when a woman lets you in too quickly you lose a certain amount of desire and respect for her. An easy to get into bed kind of woman is not someone most men would consider as a long term partner, us men want someone who is special and has high regard for themself. Rotten hypocrites aren't we! But that's how men are I'm afraid to say.

Richard

Philllipa wrote:I hope people dont think this is rude but I just wonder how long it took before you went the whole way?

Pipxoxo

Saucy question!

Pol

This question highlights the double standard doesn't it? The suggestion that judgement will ultimately be cast on women who answer that they did so quickly (with any man, Turkish or otherwise) means that people will be coy about answering, or even if they do, may not feel able to be wholly truthful about it.

It also makes you wonder what the purpose of the queston is? What will the responses tell us?

Can you imagine men asking one another how long they waited until having sex with their partner? The question wouldn't even arise I'd imagine, unless the purpose of it was to give them the opportunity to boast about how accomplished at talking women into bed they were!

Women on the other hand are branded as cheap tarts that no decent man would want if they jump into bed a few hours after meeting. I actually think that's a notion that's becoming more and more outdated these days.

I'm sure very many women sleep with the Turkish men they meet very quickly and the fact that so many of these men seem to be quite happy to go ahead and marry them tells us that Turkish men aren't that bothered by notions of "honour" and "decency" - or maybe they think that's only for Turkish women...? Or maybe they're only after a visa lol!!

NEVER

Ruby

Hi Pip,

I would assume (it's only an assumption, of course!) but I would assume that the majority of women who met their 'askims' whilst on holiday, probably excelerated the whole courtship due to all the obvious factors of time being short, and obviously the other contributing factors of being in a 'holiday setting' where the normal rule books of what's accetable and unacceptable are not adhered to so strictly.

If you meet a man you're very attracted to while on holiday, and the chemistry between you both is 'electric' - when you throw in the sun, sea, moonlight and stars the whole thing becomes very seductive. There's also very often a sense of urgency in that you both know time isn't on your side.

Having said that, I suppose I'm a bit 'old school' where sex is concerned. However attracted I am to someone, and however electric the chemistry is, I've always tended to hold back for a while. And not because I've thought I'd appear 'cheap' (though my mother and father always drummed it into me that 'nice girls' make men wait - it sounds so dated, I know) but I do think making them wait makes it more special. I really do. Besides, why would I 'give it away' to a man I'd just met, simply because he was good-looking and charming?! I also think that all that build up of sexual tension between a couple - the lead up to it all - makes the occasion so passionate and intense when it does finally happen. And as old-fashioned as it may sound, the sad truth is that men generally do respect a woman more if she's harder to get. It may be wrong, it may be unfair - but it's universally true.

Of course, with modern times things are much different now - people don't take any notice of women going out 'pulling' a man, and having sex on the first night they meet, but it isn't for me. And to be honest, I think I would feel cheap if I slept with someone the first night. And how about the chase? That's such a big part of the lead-up!

I guess I knew early on I was eventually going to have sex with Ertie, but we still had 'the chase' on my first holiday out there, and it was frustrating for us both, but there was something exciting about knowing he was wondering how much longer the chase was going to go on for!

Everyone's different, I guess, and we can only go by our own preferences and what we deem to be acceptable. I probably sound like a male chauvenist pig, but I do think if a woman jumps into bed with a man on the first night it makes lovemaking meaningless. I know men can have sex with a stranger - they'll even PAY to have sex with a stranger - but women are usually more reserved and fussy - and I'd imagine they'd find sex with a relative stranger they've only met in the flesh for the last few hours - a very cold, unemotional, unloving experience. And women can't separate sex and affection like men can.

Strawbs

Turkish men have two faces...they know its wrong for a woman to have sex before marriage in the muslim culture...it never stops them tho and its only the woman who gets branded a slut............

It is double standards but I think men need to do all the running, its been like that since cave times. me tarzan you jane!

Maria

You cant have been to marmaris and seen all those women tarzans!!...........

Do they have an STD clinic in Marmaris? Where do all the men go to get checked out?

That's another thing that astonishes me when a woman jumps into bed with a man on the first night : how does she know he hasn't got VD?! And doesn't it occur to her that him not being worried about whether she's got an STD or not, shows his lack of concern for his own health? Even using condoms there's no guarantee you'll not catch something! And imagine if a man told you he was suffering from an STD 'but would wear a condom' - you'd run a mile!!

Of course, just because you've got to know a man as well as you can, it doesn't mean he can't have an STD, but your chances of catching something from any Tom, Dick or Harry by having sex with them on the first night must increase. Especially when some women have a few men throughout their fortnight holiday.........

Strawbs

There use to be a rat walking the resorts riddles he was....and all the old dears was lining up to shag him......

I think its bloody cheeky saying its okay for a man to have sex first night but not a woman! I bet loads of women have skellies in there cupboards How about if you get bladdered and fancy a bloke? I know your defences come down then as well as your knickers! I dont care what people think so they can say what they like but if you fancy a bloke you fancy him, as long as you do safe sex its harming nobody.

Sal

Pol

If I was you I would lay off the drink if you cant control your knickers Sal I cant really think your serious?????????? Your joking right????

Maria

Admin wrote:Do they have an STD clinic in Marmaris? Where do all the men go to get checked out?

That's another thing that astonishes me when a woman jumps into bed with a man on the first night : how does she know he hasn't got VD?! And doesn't it occur to her that him not being worried about whether she's got an STD or not, shows his lack of concern for his own health? Even using condoms there's no guarantee you'll not catch something! And imagine if a man told you he was suffering from an STD 'but would wear a condom' - you'd run a mile!!

Of course, just because you've got to know a man as well as you can, it doesn't mean he can't have an STD, but your chances of catching something from any Tom, Dick or Harry by having sex with them on the first night must increase. Especially when some women have a few men throughout their fortnight holiday.........

Strawbs

Hi Strawbs

Forget Tom and definately HARRY ha ha, I think Dick is more of an appropriate name.

Ruby

Hey I did say we are hypocrites where this is concerned, I never said differently! I would never think badly of a woman who wanted to make love on the first night but I have to admit that I would wonder a little about her past and her personal values. Sure, that's wrong in some ways but I'm being honest here! If you want me to lie what good would that do? We're here to discuss things and hear people out, if we can't do that there's no point in saying our piece.

I've met thousands of women I would love to have jumped into bed with straight away! Haha, but that's in my dreams. I agree with the chase principle, the chase makes it a whole lot sexier and more meaningful. Having sex and making love are two different acts.

Richard