Merry Christmas and thank you ..

My dear ladies,

I wanted to thank each and every one of you for helping me through these past few months. This Christmas will not be the one I dreamed about BUT I was given a far greater gift from the world. I escaped from a man before he could have done much, more damage to my heart and soul, and I found support in unknown places. I hope my experience can help others who find themselves in a similar situation.

My hurt, anger and bitterness are pretty much gone. I can look back at my vacation with happy memories and I can even laugh at Judas. Sometimes I do get a twinge - not because I miss him but I miss the feeling of having someone to love. From this experience, I learned the strength of my will. I created a relationship out of thin air. Now I need to concentrate my power on something bigger and better.

I met a nice British guy online and we are meeting for the first time on Monday. We had some really nice phone conversations and unlike the other guy, he is only 3o minutes away.

I wish everyone a VERY Merry Christmas and a very happy New Year!

Thats great news Curly I am so proud of you I am hope you have a merry Christmas as well!

Pol x

Hi Curly,

I can't tell you how pleased I am that you've got over this nasty, horrible man. I can say this with my hand on my heart : just knowing ONE person has been saved years of pain, unhappiness and torture from a rat makes me feel SO good!

I know at first my words did upset you, but you needed that shaking to see how destructive this man was to your happiness and well-being. Had he had his way - he would have kept you in a fog of limbo for years and years - and just look at you now! You feel good, alive, relieved - and can even laugh at the way he tried to deceive you.

You've accepted that he was a no-good rat, and whilst at the beginning you didn't want to face up to that - you now feel free of him - and you're ready to start a new healthy chapter of your life.

I'm sure you're past the feeling of wanting revenge, but I think we all know that at the end of the day the loser in all of this is going to be him. He plays with hearts, but the day will come when he can no longer do that - and while you will find a real and true love - he will be a pathetic ageing man with massive regrets.

I hope your British guy gives you everything the Turkish runt wasn't capable of doing, and even if he isn't 'the one' you certainly are on the road to happiness!

Wishing you a LOVELY Christmas and a wonderful, wonderful new year!

Strawbs

wow you have a fun time,just be careful and merry christmas and a happy new year to you too xxx

Merry christmas Curly
You done good gal!
Go fill ya boots now!

Maria x

Merry Christmas from me too and that goes for all the girls here

Thanks ladies!

Strawbs, I still wince at my old self. I didn't want to hear what was wrong with me so the universe has to hit me pretty hard over the head to wake me up. And believe me, the universe tried to get my attention many times. I was too ashamed to tell even my best friend some of the things he had done to hurt and upset me during the time he called me his girlfriend. I was driven to tell lies so my friends wouldn't think less of him and I didn't see the insanity in that!

I think an important lesson for women - make that PEOPLE - to learn is that if someone wants to be with you, they will move heaven and earth to make it happen. If you feel like you are doing all the work and they are just going along for the ride, something is wrong. I love that scene in the movie “My Best Friend’s Wedding,” when Julia Roberts tells her best friend she is chasing after the groom, who is chasing after the bride and her friend asks her, “Who’s chasing you? Nobody. There’s your answer.”

I no longer want revenge. My biggest fear was this man was happily going along with his life while I suffered. As my dear friend Ruby pointed out, how can someone with all these obvious mental and physical issues, not to mention low self-esteem, self-hatred and the incapacity to love possibly be happy? It's unfortunate that thanks to the internet he has access to millions of women around the world who can be duped into thinking he is the answer to their girlish dreams. But no one's luck can hold out forever and one day he will mess with the wrong woman. And we all know hell hath no fury!

Tonight is my first date with the Brit! He's been here seven years and is a wine maker. Wish me luck!

curlyboop wrote:Thanks ladies!

Strawbs, I still wince at my old self. I didn't want to hear what was wrong with me so the universe has to hit me pretty hard over the head to wake me up. And believe me, the universe tried to get my attention many times. I was too ashamed to tell even my best friend some of the things he had done to hurt and upset me during the time he called me his girlfriend. I was driven to tell lies so my friends wouldn't think less of him and I didn't see the insanity in that!

I think an important lesson for women - make that PEOPLE - to learn is that if someone wants to be with you, they will move heaven and earth to make it happen. If you feel like you are doing all the work and they are just going along for the ride, something is wrong. I love that scene in the movie “My Best Friend’s Wedding,” when Julia Roberts tells her best friend she is chasing after the groom, who is chasing after the bride and her friend asks her, “Who’s chasing you? Nobody. There’s your answer.”

I no longer want revenge. My biggest fear was this man was happily going along with his life while I suffered. As my dear friend Ruby pointed out, how can someone with all these obvious mental and physical issues, not to mention low self-esteem, self-hatred and the incapacity to love possibly be happy? It's unfortunate that thanks to the internet he has access to millions of women around the world who can be duped into thinking he is the answer to their girlish dreams. But no one's luck can hold out forever and one day he will mess with the wrong woman. And we all know hell hath no fury!

Tonight is my first date with the Brit! He's been here seven years and is a wine maker. Wish me luck!

Wow Curly, I am bowled over for you, thats great news. I really hope Mr UK is a good man, but dont let your defences down, take it slowly and get to know him before you give him your most precious gift - (your heart).

I am so happy that you are also happy, and we are always here for you.

Have a great Christmas and I sincerely hope that 2012 is the best year of your life.

Big hugs

Ruby x

PS: I wrote a column about my experience, transformation and realization of my own power, and the blog Daily Love is going to run it! They have more than 600,000 readers so it is very exciting. Alas, it is going to be anonymous but I'll know it is me. I mention you ladies and the support I was given - not by name of course!!! - so hopefully they won't edit that part out.

Curly
You have reached a major milestone! Celebrate your amazing life and future happiness! We were all worried for you....so it is immensely empowering that you can reflect in such a mature and level-headed way. Well done for coming through this with such wisdom. I wish u happiness and love and respect always!

Xxhugs
Nicks

curlyboop wrote:PS: I wrote a column about my experience, transformation and realization of my own power, and the blog Daily Love is going to run it! They have more than 600,000 readers so it is very exciting. Alas, it is going to be anonymous but I'll know it is me. I mention you ladies and the support I was given - not by name of course!!! - so hopefully they won't edit that part out.

Good for you Curly, I know I don't post very often but I have been following your story and I have great admiration for the way you have come out of this and regained you confidence. Writing it down can be very therapeutic and I often tell my patients when they're feeling low to write their feelings down on paper, it really does help you see the picture more clearly. I would like to do a blog myself some time but I haven't a clue where to start and I'm strapped for time at the moment anyhow. I'd love to read your blog on Daily Love Curly, could you put a link up to it please? Take care Curly and have a buzzing Christmas

Hi Fanny, As soon as they run it, I will put up the link. I'm so excited bc the guy who runs it works with great people like Oprah and Tony Robbins. I almost fainted when I saw an email from him.

Good for you Curly! You should be really proud of how far you've come.

It's so nice to hear about a happy outcome on a site with a "tell it like it is" ethos as opposed to a "tell them what they want to hear" and "if you haven't got anything nice to say don't say anything at all" ethos.

It's proof that telling it like it is can pay dividends and proof too that people here do care deeply and genuinely want to support people and help them to make the right choices. It's vitally important to help people remove the rose coloured glasses so that the fog lifts and they can see the bigger picture.

All the best for 2012 Curly and I hope things continue to go well with your new man.

My column

A lot was cut out but the sentiment is there. The first comment cracked me up. Only Judas could get cursed out by people on a blog devoted to love and understanding.

Awesome Curly! I loved what you wrote, such courage....to push through the pain and find yourself again on the other side.

Hugs

Nicksx

curlyboop wrote:My column

A lot was cut out but the sentiment is there. The first comment cracked me up. Only Judas could get cursed out by people on a blog devoted to love and understanding.

well done Curly......well written...you must be so proud.......good on ya gal......

Hi Curly,

I hope you had a great Christmas - and I hope you have an even better New Year!

How did your date go with the English guy? I hope it went well, but if he wasn't your cup of tea, remember, there's thousands more fish in the sea!

Strawbs

Yes Curly theres lotsa fish in the sea but dont look in the maramaris sea!

Come and tell us how your xmas went and what you did, you are an insparation you are!

Sal x

Thanks ladies! I'm visiting with my family, including my niece and nephew, whom I love to spoil rotten. My lunch date with the cute Brit was very nice. We are supposed to get together after the holidays. I'm going to take things very slow and also keep my options open.

I get a daily inspiration every day and the one for today is: I found myself when I lost you. Thank you for leaving!

Can I get an AMEN!

Nice one Curly!...I found myself when I lost you LOL....gonna nick that.......good to know your date was cool...keep playing it cool and slow .......

curlyboop wrote:Thanks ladies! I'm visiting with my family, including my niece and nephew, whom I love to spoil rotten. My lunch date with the cute Brit was very nice. We are supposed to get together after the holidays. I'm going to take things very slow and also keep my options open.

I get a daily inspiration every day and the one for today is: I found myself when I lost you. Thank you for leaving!

Can I get an AMEN!

Loved that inspiration Curly, keep it close to you.

God Bless Us, Everyone

Rubes

I'm glad you all liked it! I'm learning that sometimes there is no making sense of things, there is only making peace with them.

curlyboop wrote:I'm glad you all liked it! I'm learning that sometimes there is no making sense of things, there is only making peace with them.

Thats a great quote Curly some things you can never change

Youve done so well, feel real chuffed for you I do

Maria x

curlyboop wrote:I'm glad you all liked it! I'm learning that sometimes there is no making sense of things, there is only making peace with them.

I loved that one Curly! Bravo and thankyou. Sometimes we as women try to dissect, interrogate, question and examine things to the endth degree and, and, and, (whooooo I'm guilty here) when we should just digest, let them pass and make peace with them (that's definately going to be on my New Year's list!


Nicks