Hi Coushy,
I think it's very admirable of you to speak about your past relationships and to be so honest about what really happened. Not many women have the guts to admit to such things.
I notice you have a new member joined KusadasiFans (Beira?) and I suspect that's an old member of these sites whose real name is Linzee. She uses various pseudonyms - and all done to crucify me. She has opened up sites under various names (Whisperer for one) with the sole aim of denigrating me.
Because she's filled with hate and jealousy.
She is in her 50s, extremely obese (was once as fat as Dawn French used to be) and for some reason she has become fixated with me. It is VERY unhealthy.
But I will come back onto her later......
I want you to know that I have been a member of Turkish forums for about 7 years, and I have seen how nearly every single member of these sites ends up in a disastrous relationship often resulting in losing their already low self-esteem, very often their money, homes - and in some cases their family - and that's without the broken heart on top of it all - not to mention all the years they wasted on a no-good runt.
Of course there are some relationships that are successful (though without the test of time no-one can really say if they will remin successful) but those relationships are very very rare. There's various reasons why these relationships end in doom; and even the genuine ones can be hard work when you factor in the different culture, religion, visa-fights, work ethic and opportunities, family problems, language difficulties, possible age differences - not forgetting those ones where the couples only meet up a few times a year.
It's all very easy for a Turkish man to sit back in a resort or at home while his British 'askim' does all the donkey work trying to get him a visa, works all the hours God sends to fly over to see him as often as possible, sends him gifts and money she can ill afford, and then when she does go over to see him all he has to do is whisper a few sweet nothings into her ear, eat the meals she buys him, drinks the booze she pays for, and then sneaks into a hotel she's paid for so he can have sex on tap - all for free.
It doesn't take a genius to work out why a young Turkish man would find a Western woman attractive - she can provide him with all the material things a local village woman can't - and give him the opportunity of coming to the UK or the US to better his prospects. And it isn't just resort workers who seek out Western women - professional men do, too - they surf the Internet and fish for a gullible woman to try to get to what they perceive to be the land of milk and honey. Wages in the UK are much higher than they are in Turkey - so all men - regardless of whether they're resort workers or professionals - will try to claw their way to a better life. And using a woman as a means to an end does not prick their conscience one iota.
That has been proved time and time again when Turkish men have walked out on their British wives, sometimes after they get their ILR - sometimes after about 10 years once they've built up a nice little nest egg (tucked away safely in Turkey!) and gained work experience with a good CV for the future.
With all due respect to Mistral she needs to ask herself why this man is so interested in her. He works in a resort where thousands of women go every week in the season; some of them his own age or younger; some of them very attractive; some of them Turkish who have a thousand more things in common with him than Mistral could possibly have.
I know Turkey very well. I met my Turkish partner there in May 2004 and we have lived together ever since; two years in Turkey and the rest in England. During my 2 years living in Turkey I saw what goes on with these relationships, and save for a couple of them, almost every man was a player. As soon as his 'angel' returned home he had a new 'angel' the very next day. I even witnessed one man telling a woman on the phone (in English) that he missed her and loved her - while he had a young Scandinavian girl wrapped around him oblivious to what he was saying to the woman on the phone.
I travelled to almost all of the main resorts in Turkey - and it was the same all over - including Istanbul.
Yes, you're right, it wasn't nice for me to remark on Mistral's looks, but then again it wasn't nice for her to find it funny when she witnessed players cheating on their so-called girlfriends. I find that particularly nasty, especially when it's a dead cert he's doing exactly the same to her. All that nonsense he gives her about not having an address to get married is rot. He could put down any address if he wished to, and she must be incredibly naive if she believes those lies he's telling her. She (like thousands of these women) are doing all the travelling, saving up for flights, staying home to save pennies - can you imagine these men doing the same? If Mistrals 'fiance' is so madly in love with her he would move heaven and earth to be with her. He would work all the hours God sends him to save up for a flight, visa application, and if what he is saying about the address situation was really true - he would sort it. No problem! You know how easy it is to wangle things in Turkey!
The trouble is, these men like to keep a few women on the back burner - even if they have no intention of choosing them for their escape route out of Turkey. It's very handy for a Turkish runt having an eager woman fly over a few times every year to treat them to a mini holiday: meals out, drinks, cigarettes, a few pressies, a nice comfortable bed to sleep in for a fortnight, free sex, and maybe a little cash at the end of it all.
Mistral comes across as very needy, very insecure, gullible - and depressed. Unless he has the intelligence of a gnat he will realise that, and use her disadvantages to his own advantage.
I know that many members on these sites are frightened to speak up for various reasons, but what I find paticularly nauseating is when women sit back and watch the train crash in slow motion for their own twisted kicks. And believe me when I tell you - there are SEVERAL women on these sites who do just that.
It's no secret that I deplore Sirin and Linzee - not just because they are two-faced and nasty - but for years now, they have tried to quieten me and prevent me from warning these women. I first warned women about these rats on TurkishLoveRats (MSN groups) many years ago - and I was berated and accused of being jealous bitter and twisted. Firstly, I can tell you now, categorically, that there is not ONE THING about any of these women that I desire or could be envious of. They don't have normal relationships, and they're not happy, either - however much they try to pretend otherwise. My life isn't perfect (whose is?) but I do live a good life and I am in a very normal, happy relationship. In all honesty, it makes no difference to my life is these women want to throw their lives away on a no-good Turd, but it incenses me when the likes of Sirin, Linzee (who has about a dozen different usernames - she's even a member on here! - albeit banned) try to make out I'm just bitter and jealous, just so they can watch women get their hearts broken!
It also incenses me when I know (for a FACT) that Sirin and Linzee have opened up sites with the SOLE intention of defaming and denigrating me. They are hypocrites, and they are deeply disturbed. My, they've even tried to get me off the WWW! lol
I'd also like to add (though this has no relevance to Mistral's situation) that the member, Mikki, who was murdered by her husband in the summer (including her mother) received VERY BAD advice from TL when she had problems with her husband. Sirin never ONCE tried to help her or advise her (she did the very opposite) and one of the members on there (JennyWrites) actually told Mikki that is was SHE who was in the wrong and she should write a letter expressing her displeasure to him! Another member, the heiffer Pauline (married to a Turtleweed) told Mikki "Let him breathe hun"
These are the sort of twisted individuals you have on that site.
So what hope is there for Mistral when she's surrounded by thick gormless women like that, or plain nasty bitches who want to watch the fallout when she's left desolate? These women brainwash and indoctrinate gullible women into remaining in doomed relationships - and you should be asking yourself why that is.
Ask yourself why any normal woman would encourage a young teenage girl or an older vulnerable woman to keep at a relationship with a man who is either half their age, can't speak English, is of a different religion/culture, has no money, little prospects, possibly uneducated, aggressive, controlling, violent, abusive, disappears for days on end 'sulking', difficulty getting a visa, and clearly wants to come to England regardless of what the woman looks like or how little he knows her?
I could understand some people thinking the green-eyed monster might pop up if these men were tall, muscular, drop-dead handsome, oozing with charm, personality, intelligence - earned zillions of lira each week and was clearly besotted with the woman - but as yet - I've not witnessed ONE on these sites!
If I was advising women to dump a man like that, then yes, I could understand people saying "oh she's just jealous" but these men are all weedy little runts with nothing to offer but grief!
And with my experience I can tell you now (just going by what Mistral has revealed) that this man is using her.
Strawbs
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Judith said something about her being like Reyhan 
yes she is, shes just like her in the head. lalalalaland
shes like a fat stinking pong that wont go away eeeeew
wander why they dont use the their real ones? can we guess why? 
so this angry minger has posted this up on kusfans
they all look dead or shut shop 
why was all the other sites run by Linzee and Sirin (in her faked name) closed down by yuku? not so sweet on there was ya love. 
