A few months after he went back he friend requested me on Facebook. I kept it light as I didn’t want to get hurt. Sloiwly he started to regain my trust. We spent hours together online.
One day there was this horrible batch of posts on his FB page from two women who said they were played by him and who warned others not to be fooled by his lies. He brushed it off, saying they were crazy and I of course didn’t want to believe it.
We continued to get closer. I kept wanting to go visit him but he kept saying the timing wasn’t good. One day he told me he loved me. I was over the moon as I loved him too. This September I finally went to see him and spent two weeks with him.
I had a magical time with him. He was so romantic and attentive. We both cried out eyes out on the airport (he also cried after sex a few times). I truly felt like he was the man for me. I missed him like crazy but felt we could find a way to be together.
So, about a week after my vacation I’m on Twitter and it suggests people to follow. Imagine my surpise when I saw a woman’s profile photo – it was of the two of them. She posted about 30 pictures all together of the two of them. From her Tweets I learned she flew in from her country and spent a week with him. She left the day I flew in.
She also has a public blog where she posts pictures and talks about him and how he is her “prince charming.” She writes about watching him cook, eat, sleep and iron on Skype.
I lost it and sent him a dozen emails asking what was going on. I was really hurt, angry and upset. I told him I was disgusted he had sex with her hours before he slept with me. He didn’t contact me for three days. When he did, he denied anything happened with her. He said she was there on business and he had to watch out for her. It wasn’t his fault she had feelings for him and he said he’s going to kick her ass for making it seem like they were together.
He also turned it around on me and said I should have trusted him and ignored what this girl wrote. He didn’t even acknowledge why I was upset – it was all about poor attacked him. He then blocked me on FB.
I’m ashamed to say that I also emailed her and let her know. I haven’t heard back from her and I doubt I will. I can only imagine what he is telling her about me because on her FB page (it’s open) she calls me an “annoying fan” of his and she “wants to kill me with her words.” He obviously didn't tell her off or she apologized enough because she is still building online shrines to him.
Of course I feel like the biggest idiot on earth for ignoring the red flags. I must say his response to me had me question my sanity. I mean … he CRIED after sex and at the airport when I was leaving. I don't get it ...