How Oz Settled......

17-Aug-2011 18:38



Loving it might be a strong way of putting it, but Oz is happy and settled here. He would be wouldn't he? Wink wink nudge nudge! AHEM!!



I'm sure he does still miss Turkey, (although he was VERY keen to leave Turkey ) - and why wouldn't he, it's his home country - but he likes the life we have here and all the freedom to do what he wants. AHEM! We probably have more freedom from family duties and obligations than we would have in Turkey (and he never wanted me to have his babies, either) We have a good standard of living - we eat out in cheap restaurants at Happy Hour - that sort of thing. We live in a town that we both like, and we could never afford to move to London or anywhere like that, anyway. There are other Turks nearby (though he has English friends as much as Turkish) and he's made a niche for himself on the club scene. AHEM!!

I'm proud of how he got himself out there and got work. Like Amy's hubby, he was really motivated to make some money and I left him to it. At first it wasn't the work he wanted, but once he got a break, he's done really well and knows he's valued there. They even sent him on a business trip to India (just the once), which is an opportunity he wouldn't have had working in Turkey, and he sends money back to Turkey every month. I'm not sure how much - he never tells me.

He doesn't miss the heat in Turkey, and quite likes the variety in the weather here. We go back at least once a year - well, actually we don't - I go to Turkey just once a year but Oz goes back to his family on his own, and although we could go back more often than that (if only we could afford it) he doesn't really like being away from home, and his friends!

The longterm plan is to buy a place in Turkey, so that we have the option of spending more time over there (if our jobs allow), ooops, and I forget, he has a gadget filled apartment in Istanbul! How could I forget that?! Must be because we never, ever go there - not sure why! But I think the key to being happy where you live is to find a way to have the lifestyle you want. I would love to have a fantastic rich lifestyle but we don't have the money to do that, so we compromise and make do with what we've got. I was always bouncing Direct Debits at the bank - to the tune of £1000 in bank charges (I bounced about 35 DD's) but I try to live within my means now. Oz has taught me how to scrimp. He is very economical and makes sure he keeps an eye on the pennies.

Living in Turkey wouldn't work for us. I'd be unlikely to be able to find work, and I couldn't stand to be a housewife, and I couldn't afford the luxury anyway - we have a massive mortgage. Oz can also be himself more easily than I could be myself in Turkey - though that's not to underestimate what he's sacrificed and how he's adapted. He's sacrificed a low paid job in Turkey, restrictions on living the lifestyle he wants (AHEM!!) and he said he NEVER wanted to come to the UK. Actually, people ask me why he went into the Chatroom on ENGLISHGIRLFRIENDSOFTURKISHMEN every night for about 9 months when he was living in Istanbul, had no connections with the UK, no English girlfiend (just a German one) and never wanted to come to England. I'm not really sure myself

Having said all of that - if he hadn't been able to find work, things would be very different and I know he would have been miserable. He really wanted to earn money and to send regular amounts back to Turkey. We'd have to have found some way of working it out - as someone's said, maybe it would mean us relocating in England to where he could get a job, or relocating in Turkey to where I might have been able to get a job, but Oz wanted to live in England - that's why he fished me off the Internet I suppose.

Rainbowsweeties - I hope all goes well when your hubby arrives here. Don't beat yourself up or worry too much if it's not all blissful from Day 1 - that would be a lot of pressure to put on yourselves.

Getting a job is probably key, so fingers crossed that it works out. Eat a lot of takeaways in the first few weeks, to see if there's any Turks around or anyone looking for an extra pair of hands! That's how Oz found his first job here, and the Turkish guy we met by complete fluke in that pizza shop is now his best friend; well, it wasn't actually fluke - we kept going in there eating takeaways and eventually the guy in the kebab/pizza shop gave Oz a chance. In fact, I ate so many takeaways (cheapest on the menu) that I'm now a Size 22, but Oz doesn't seem to mind - I don't think he's even noticed how I've piled on the blubber.

Hope you're as lucky as we have been!

One day she might stop her mills and boon posts and actually post something decent and honest.

I've noticed with Sirin that when her lies and her life gets worse, she retreats into her world of delusion and fantasy. It's a form of escapism for her. She can't bear facing up to the truth.

Everyone knows how she likes to pretend she comes from good stock! lol But she comes from a working class family, and they lived a very modest lifestyle. Someone I know well who has met Sirin said that you can tell just by looking at her (her dress sense, style, deportment etc) that she is low class. I think this is at the crux of a lot of Sirin's problems ; she resents the fact she comes from a working class family and that she never did well for herself (she never went onto university or anything like that) she's only ever been to about 3 countries (Turkey, Ibiza and Germany) so she's not at all well-travelled or experienced. And she didn't manage to find a husband until her late 30's - I wonder why she never had a normal relationship with a man? Strange isn't it?

She escapes into her world of fantasy, because it's easier to daydream, than face up to the harsh reality of what her life really is like. She's so desperate to make out she's something she's not, that she even said on Turkey Central that she wanted to go skiing (which she couldn't spell correctly, by the way) to Uludag, and that "hubby has never skied - while she's a beginner" Well that's a lie! She's never skied in her life - except on her Wii! I know that for a fact because when KKK asked for advice about skiing, I gave her lots of helpful tips and information. Sirin actually piped up and said she'd like to try it one day - and she has certainly never been skiing since then!

It's like in that latest post of hers on where she says she and Oz go to Turkey 'a couple of times a year'. That's a lie. She goes there just once a year. And she never goes anywhere else. She's a fantasist, and has delusions of grandeur. She's such a fantasist that she's even managed to convince herself she's a Size 12, when in fact, she looks more like a Size 22. In the picture of her standing next to the wax model of Priness Diana at Madam Tussauds, she is at least twice Diana's width - and about two thirds her height. Now, those wax models are done to exact measurements, and Princess Diana was 5"10" and a Size 10/12. Which means Sirin must be about 5 foot tall, and a Size 20/22. It's there for all to see. Yet Sirin will insist she's a Size 12!

I bet one of the reasons she likes Linzeeeeee so much is that she makes her feel slim!

Strawbs

EAT A LOT OF TAKEAWAYS IN THE FIRST FEW WEEKS!! She cant even be honest there can she, instead of walking into a kebab shop annd asking if they have any jobs they had to slink in all slyly and with a motive....the more I read about that woman the more sly she sounds. I bet they sucked up to the manager when they gave the order,eugh! Enough to make you shiver!