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    Annoying Expressions

    Post  Admin on Sun Apr 24, 2011 10:37 pm

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    Monday, 03-28-11 10:49
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    Dont know about anyone else, but some Turkish expressions really annoy me, most especially when English people attempt to copy them. For example, oooooooooooooffffffffffffffffffffff bear, ooooooooooooooooofffffffffffffffffffffff yaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaar. Also, why do so many posters on the 'other' site start their posts with GGRRRRRRRRRRRRR, I mean WTF, just displays a childish immaturity like a little girl stamping her feet when she cannot get her own way. Also, when starting a new thread, there seems to be a trend for the original poster to start by say 'So today I went to the Mall...........'. I understand that its probably just a geographical way of speaking, but it sounds ridiculous to me. I also hate the word 'hubby', sounds like hubby is some sort of dog, now come along hubby dont be a naughty boy or I will smack your nose with the newspaper, thought this term went out years ago. I would hate to be referred to as 'wifey' or 'her indoors'. Whats wrong with the word husband, wife, partner, boyfriend, spouse or even referring to him by name?

    Other expressions I dislike are:- yenge, abi, abla, kardes, amca, teyze, olum, kiz. Its almost as if people in Turkey lose their identity, if they are lucky their first name is used in the first instance for example Mehmet abi (obviously if the Mehmet in question is older than the person who is speaking to him). I hate being called yenge, abla, as it takes my your identity. I always address a Turkish person whom I know with their first name.

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    Adryath #1 [url] [-]

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    Monday, 03-28-11 12:06
    What I hate most of all is when girls refer to their partner as 'my askim' - it makes me want to scream

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    strawberryxxx #2 [url] [-]

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    Monday, 03-28-11 12:27
    Oh yes! There's nothing worse than when a British woman tries to copy Turkish mannerisms - or when they say ooooooooofffffffffffffff all the time!!!! They sound so desperate, and it really is embarrassing. Yaaaar? There's actually one woman on the other site who has started writing in 'broken English' - I kid you not! Ha-ha! She also talks about 'closing her phone', and after discovering her name is also a Turkish name she hastily informed her workplace to change her name badge from Mel to the full version! She's extremely proud of that badge!! And I dare say she positions herself in such a way so that people can get a full view of her name!

    I too find threads where the poster starts it with 'So......' slightly odd - and a trifle arrogant. Many of these posters who start off like this usually believe themselves to be cracking raconteurs - not all of them - but quite a few do.

    I also find it irritating when people go on about yabancis. I think a lot of women like to use that word because it's easy to pronounce and remember. And I know all the expats in Turkey use the word, yabanci, too - but according to Ertie he says it's not a particularly flattering term to use for a foreigner - and I do like to be flattered!! So when women refer to themselves as yabancis (especially with an imaginary wobble of the head at speaking this Turkish term) I cringe a little. Same with yenge - I hate it. It's so insincere for one thing. I remember a twat of a waiter called me yenge on the second night I went out with Ertie. I asked Ertie what he meant, and he said 'Oh, like sister. Your my girlfriend...." What a joke!! We'd only been out for ONE kebab! I wasn't his girlfriend!!

    As for the hubby term - this reminds me of suburban women circa 1956 dressed in floral, Wyncyette frocks, orange-tan coloured stockings, sensible suede loafers, neat tidy perms....carrying wicker baskets to the local butchers to buy half a pound of mince for their hubby's cottage pie. Then soon as they got home, and after they'd ironed and starched hubby's shirts and handkerchiefs, their next-door neighbour would pop in for a cup of tea and biscuits as they poured through recipe books and Good Housekeeping Guides, giving each other tips on the best way keep hubby amused when he got in from work at night. A woman with a hubby would sometimes arrange a coffee morning with other women who had hubby's and they'd all sit there in their neat frocks regaling each other with stories about their hubbies, and then the daring one of the group would say something saucy about 'wink wink' (you know what - ahem!!!) and they'd all elbow each other knowingly and sit with their heads back chuckling away, faces all pink and flushed and with a Rich Tea biscuit hanging out their mouth. Then one of them would look at their watch on their plump wrist and squeal "Gosh! It's quarter past 3! I haven't put hubby's bakewell tart in the oven! Must dash or it won't be ready in time for his tea! Byeeeeeeeeeeeeeee'

    Yes, hubby is sooo suburban. You'd never hear the Queen calling Phillip 'hubby'! How utterly vulgar!

    I agree with you, Ruby, the word hubby does sound like an item, say, a Hoover. 'Get the hubby out and hoover up the carpet!' Ha-ha!

    A lot of the egots adore calling their newly caught husbands 'hubbies' - they think it sounds all old slippers and cosy. But it just sounds odd - and very slightly creepy!

    Strawbs




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    Deniz #3 [url] [-]

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    Monday, 03-28-11 17:20
    Mental note to myself stop referring to my Husband as hubby lol ..... thought it was better than calling him git face pmsl
    sorry sorry i'll sod off now.
    butttttttttttttttt the word Askim makes me cringe, it could be because my loved up teenager days are far behind me and i'm just a cranky old bird now of 43 thats really 21 half twice to you lot

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    Monday, 03-28-11 18:01
    Ooooh I bet you don't wear floral Wyncyette frocks, Denise!

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    Monday, 03-28-11 18:39
    Me in a floral frock

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    zeynep49 #6 [url] [-]

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    Monday, 03-28-11 18:56
    Definitely i would ban askim hate the word makes me cringe .xx

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    guveclover #7 [url] [-]

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    Monday, 03-28-11 20:07
    I can't stick the terms "hubby" or "askim" either but my real pet hate is when some daft women use the terms as if they were names - as in "I will ask askim later" or "I must ask hubby about that".

    Judith

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    Tuesday, 03-29-11 10:25
    Well we're all agreed then, 'askim' yuk along with hubby. I too can't bear yenge - my nephews over there are banned from using the expression. The other thing I can't bear & have heard plenty of over there are men refer to all women, regardless of age, as 'kiz' or including the female of the family as 'cocuklar'. Says a lot about how some men view women.

    If you had an English boyfriend would you say 'I'll ask my love'? Of course not. Some of these girls/women ought to do a mental translation before they speak or write.

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    silansmum #9 [url] [-]

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    Tuesday, 03-29-11 20:22
    Yep, please add me to the "my name's not Yenge" petition. Hate it - completely insincere and lazy too - Turks use it generally because they can't be bothered remembering/recalling your name. And thats the best case scenario - worst one is that you're called yenge because your boyfriend has so many girlfriends on the go his mates can't remember all their names and don't want to risk him getting bollocked for them calling you by some other girls name! Seen it way too many times for it to be amusing.

    Elaine

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    Tuesday, 03-29-11 22:28
    Oops...I'm one of those you must want to put up against a wall and shoot lol....I NEVER call "the husband" anything other than his name in real life and yet I think I frequently refer to him as hubby when writing about him on here. God knows why...I would never use that term when talking about him but I think it is some kind of laziness when typing, coupled with the fact that I don't really want to post his name up here because he would divorce me in a second if he found out I had put his photo on here, let alone his name lol. I will endeavour not to use that anymore and I laughed about the description of the type of woman that uses that word...fits me completely lol. I also hate the term "my askim"....it doesn't make sense for a start off...my my love???!!!! Very irritating.

    My husband calls me avrat....I know he does it because it irritates me and makes him feel superior...the GIT. So occasionally I will answer with "yes herif?"


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    Re: Annoying Expressions

    Post  Admin on Sun Apr 24, 2011 10:40 pm

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    leese78 #11 [url] [-]

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    Tuesday, 03-29-11 22:44
    Not sure if I am to be added to the list of someone that says 'hubby to be'? God that is annoying if I am! I too hate the 'yenge' 'abla' and one boy called me 'Teyza' (sp?) the other day! ı nearly slapped him! I hate Yabanci too! M's nephews call me Lisa Abla which is fine! At least they know my name! I have no idea why I don't call M his name on here! I guess I feel that it's not his choice to come on these sites so ı shouldn't name him? Erm yes that is strange but hey ho! I hate Aşkim and canim and so does M! We call each other by our names or hate to admit it 'babe!' Sad I know! And as for'' my aşkim', I hate that immensley.

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    Deniz #12 [url] [-]

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    Tuesday, 03-29-11 22:50
    OMG your herif bit made me giggle i call mine herif at home to wind him up , or shout out oi herif

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    electradiva #13 [url] [-]

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    Tuesday, 03-29-11 22:52
    I bet that goes down like a tonne of bricks Deniz Wink lol

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    Deniz #14 [url] [-]

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    Tuesday, 03-29-11 23:02
    He just laughs and walks off or he replys by calling me benim baş belası ( just googled that as was unsure of its spelling lol)
    We name call each other in Turkish, but its all just in fun

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    strawberryxxx #15 [url] [-]

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    Wednesday, 03-30-11 10:53
    silansmum wrote:
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    Yep, please add me to the "my name's not Yenge" petition. Hate it - completely insincere and lazy too - Turks use it generally because they can't be bothered remembering/recalling your name. And thats the best case scenario - worst one is that you're called yenge because your boyfriend has so many girlfriends on the go his mates can't remember all their names and don't want to risk him getting bollocked for them calling you by some other girls name! Seen it way too many times for it to be amusing.

    Elaine



    Very true, Elaine! They also use the word 'Angel' in order not to trip up - and the amount of women who fall for it is unbelievable!

    Strawbs




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    Barbarababe #16 [url] [-]

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    Wednesday, 03-30-11 13:16
    Hello Ladies

    I think Turkish men are of the romantic nature and I rather like these terms of affection. I hope that doesn't make me look silly or immature but I think some terms of affection are rather twee. My chap often refers to me as his angel which I think is very sweet, I don't feel he uses that term to fool me and he doesn't have any other women I know that for certain. We must remember different cultures do things differently and try to understand that.

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    electradiva #17 [url] [-]

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    Thursday, 03-31-11 22:00
    I think maybe if you are the type of woman that likes that type of expression, then they will use it. In my experience, men only use them when taking the piss (excuse the language) but that could be because they know that I am not that type of girl. I honestly think that one of the first things that attracted my husband to me was the "thrill of the chase" because I wasn't interested in Turkish men (as I had been in a relationship with one previously) and I can remember him saying something along the lines of "you look really beautiful tonight" to me and I responded "yes, thanks, I know!" I think he was so shocked at my cockiness that he wanted to find out more. I am sure that if I had been the type of girl that said "oh thank you, aren't you sweet blah blah" I would never have seen him again!

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    guveclover#18 [url] [-]

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    Friday, 04-01-11 18:34
    Ugghhh, I almost forgot the very worst one of all - how could I possibly have done that?!
    "Bless him".
    Some women seem to use this expression constantly when telling stories about their husbands/boyfriends. It doesn't matter what he's done it has to be followed with "bless him". Like, "he had a cold, bless him", and then when he does things that would never even warrant a "bless him" in a million years if he were English - like "he remembered my birthday, bless him" or "he made me a cup of tea, bless him". It's all so utterly ick.
    Judith


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    strawberryxxx #19 [url] [-]

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    Friday, 04-01-11 21:02
    Oh I hate that expression too! Bless him! Honestly, the way some of these women talk about their Turks you'd think they were talking about a puppy! It's almost as though they feel they have to care for him because he's an imbecile or something - it's bloody patronising - and hardly a turn on! Some time ago there was very long thread on all the things you need to do to help your Turk settle in once he's got his visa.

    Go and collect him from the airport - preferably fly over to bring him back in case he gets lost
    Register him with the doctor
    Apply for his NI number
    Buy some Turkish food - olives, yogurt - to make him feel at home
    Buy him a bus card.

    Ooooh, a real long list they had, as though they were adopting an orphan from a third world country!

    What I find really ridiculous is when a new member posts up her new story of when she first met 'askim' - usually after meeting him online - and a little way down she 'casually' says : "He paid for everything" Why on earth say that?! You wouldn't say that if you were going on your first date with a British man - it wouldn't even occur to you to mention he'd paid! And the women who insist this is true, supposedly know nothing about Turkish men - this has been their first Turk they've got involved with. Yeah, right!

    We all know Turkish men earn very low wages - even those with good jobs - so there's no way they could afford to wine, dine and entertain them on the meagre salaries they earn!

    It's laughable - and so transparent!

    Strawbs



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